An intriguing question and inspiring challenge.
A couple of days later, Michael Hyatt’s blog post was titled, Why You Should Welcome Your Problems.
A theme began to develop in my mind.
So often, I see my problems, in particular those that keep me awake, as unnecessary evils. However, I forget they bring me opportunities as well as emotional stress.
Most inventions were born from a problem. Improvements to existing products come from inconvenience. Creative solutions are brainstormed when trouble arises.
And yet, we wrongly believe life should be perfect, and assume that all good comes from said perfection.
Historically, many good causes have arisen from tragic circumstances. It doesn’t reduce the sting, but something about helping others, helps us survive. I look at the Walsh’s, whose devastating loss of their young son, Adam, changed the way we view and act on child abduction. Code Adam is only one positive result of the angst this family experienced.
In my own life, when I make columns and list my tragedies and triumphs, I’m often amazed at how similar the entries are. The things that hurt me, also help to grow and define me. My efforts to overcome pain provide meaning as I share what I learn with others.
I still struggle with painful situations, problems at work, relationship challenges, but I’m learning to start looking for the positives early. These are some of the questions I ask myself:
- Is there any good that might come from my heartache?
- Am I missing a chance to let God or people whittle away the rough edges of my character?
- Is there a creative solution that could protect someone else from going through this?
- Have I made a mistake that requires humility and correction?
- Will my story teach me compassion for the stories of others?
- As a writer, can I tell this story and ease the lonely feeling for the next person to experience this?
Life on earth will never be void of problems. Many will keep us awake at night. But looking for the good inside the gut-wrenching can help us transform a dark present into a brighter future. Our tragedy transforms to triumph, in turn, giving our lives on earth greater meaning.
What tragic stories from your past developed you into a stronger person today?
Genesis 50:20 (NIV1984)
You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.
Anita Agers-Brooks is a Business Coach, Certified Personality Trainer, Productivity Specialist, Certified Team Training Facilitator, Marketing Specialist, national speaker, and author. She lives in Missouri with her husband Ricky.
She’s passionate about business with integrity, healthy relationships, and issues of identity. She travels the country teaching others from her personal experiences and research.