My head was in the bowl, so every time I raised up to answer Courtney, my hairdresser, Jackie, pushed me back down. With my drenched head, and Courtney’s wide eyes, we were talking about personalities.
As a Certified Personality Trainer, the subject often comes up, “What does that mean?”
When I explain the four basic types, and give a brief description for each, invariably, people lean in and want diagnosed. I imagine it’s like being a doctor or a psychologist in a social setting, “Hey doc, I’ve got this pain,” or “Me and my husband fight over this subject all the time, can you help?”
No matter where I go, people want personality information to help them with their relationships. Whether it’s spousal, parent-child, or a co-workers, we all need help to get along and live in peace.
I taught a class in Cuba, and most of the staff at the Third Generation salon attended. Courtney wasn’t working there at the time, so she’s begging to do another. We belly laughed when Courtney, (a Sanguine/Popular personality), said, “I think Jackie gets mad at me when I keep asking questions.”
Jackie, (the Choleric/Powerful), said, “I don’t really get mad, but you DRIVE ME crazy. I just want you to back off and give me some space to think about it. If you don’t give me room, I’ll say something I’ll later regret.”
Ah, the body, tone, and word language of opposites. With innocence in her voice, Courtney said, “Do you think it’s true that opposites attract? I think my husband and I might be.”
“Do I think?” Opposites absolutely attract. Whether it’s God’s sense of humor, to balance us from our natural selves, or simply to keep us from getting bored, like polar fields, two different personalities are drawn to each other. In marriage, friendship, parent-child relationships, and especially at work. We choose relationships with people who give us what we’re missing, while they grate our nerves doing it.
Learning about natural personalities is a top-secret to my success, both in personal and work relationships. I love sharing the information wherever I go, even when my head is in the washbowl, and Jackie’s powerful arm is pushing me back down.
Anita FreshFaith @ Work
Proverbs 27:17 (NIV)
As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.
Anita Agers-Brooks is a Business Expert, Certified Personality Trainer, Communications Specialist, speaker, and writer. She lives in Missouri.