Have you ever wanted to reward someone, maybe an employee, or even your spouse or child, but didn’t get the response you were hoping for? Were you perplexed by a yawn, a blank stare, or a ho-hum thank you? Wouldn’t you prefer a warm smile or a pleasant look of surprise?
Do you wonder how to pierce the veil of a lackluster response when your desire is to appreciate and motivate?
As a Certified Personality Trainer and Human Resource Manager, I spend a great deal of time looking for these answers. And the benefits of knowing how to reward properly follows me home to my family at night. We’re all human, but we don’t all react the same.
So here’s the secret formula I use to bless people who’ve blessed me:
I mix one part personality, one part love language, and one part gender. Blend carefully, and reward accordingly.
But where do you find all these ingredients? The gender thing’s easy enough to figure out, but personality and love languages? To start, let’s pull one thing out at a time.
Popular Sanguine — Needs something fun to play
Powerful Choleric — Needs something adventurous to do
Perfect Melancholy — Needs something artistic to absorb
Peaceful Phlegmatic — Needs a restful escape
Words of affirmation
Acts of service
But knowing what to put in is only part of the formulation. If you don’t know how to measure properly, the chemistry still doesn’t work. Tomorrow I’ll share the final equation. When mixed well, it gives the recipient a boost and should reward you with sparkling eyes and an appreciative smile. Or maybe a look of surprise.
How do you show appreciation?
Psalm 62:12 (NIV)
…and with you, Lord, is unfailing love”; and, “You reward everyone according to what they have done.”
Anita Agers-Brooks is a Business Expert, Certified Personality Trainer, Communications Specialist, speaker, and writer. She lives in Missouri with her family.
Contact her via www.freshstartfreshfaith.org or firstname.lastname@example.org